Pam has studied psychology and is a mental health advocate. She wants to improve the lives of people.

It can be hard to tell the difference between what is real and what is not in a relationship.

There are no rights or wrongs when it comes to forming a relationship, but there are certain truths that most people prefer to ignore.

It's possible that denying them makes things feel easier or more exciting. The longer you deny the truth, the more difficult it will be to form a healthy relationship.

The four uncomfortable truths are explained in a way that explains why you should accept them.

It's a lot of effort to be in a long-lasting relationship

Many people believe that a relationship should not require a lot of hard work or sacrifice.

Things should be easy.

Those who share that belief are usually the ones who go from relationship to relationship and are dissatisfied with their partners and love life.

It's true that the honeymoon period is the only time when things feel easy in a relationship.

If you want the relationship to continue, you will need to put in a lot of effort.

That could mean more than that.

It is not possible to make a relationship make you happy

A friend of mine used to stay single for a week or more. She entered into relationship after relationship just for the sake of being with someone, even though she knew they were not a good fit.

I don't know where she is or what she's doing, but I'm pretty sure she's not single.

She thought that only a relationship could make her happy, and that's the reason for her behavior. It is not enough for a relationship to make you happy.

Good partners can do a lot for you.

It is always an inside job to be happy and it depends on yourself. You will both feel unfulfilled in the relationship if you depend on a partner for bringing you happiness.

There is more than one perfect match for us

When we are in love, we like to think that there is no one like our partner in the world. We tell our friends that finding our partner was meant to be and that we talk about fate and destiny.

It is very romantic.

The current world population is close to 7. There is more than one perfect match for everyone. It sucks to think about it, but for me and your current partner.

Here is why that is a good thing.

Your partner is never going to be able to read your mind

It can cause a lot of problems if you think a partner should be able to read your thoughts and predict your feelings.

Even if you have been together for a long time, your partner won't be able to read your mind and know what you want.

A certain level of empathy develops between you when you have been with someone for a long time.

It's not possible to always be aware of what's going on in your partner's head, if we take into account that people change and so do their needs, tastes, and preferences.

Regardless of how long they've been together and how well they think they know one another, a relationship's well-being depends on both parties being able to comfortably communicate their feelings, thoughts, fears and tastes to each other.

The content is accurate and true to the best of the author's knowledge, but is not meant to be a substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.